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Grandparenting:Enriching Lives [VHS] $4.95 Grandparents can have a profound effect on the lives of their grandchildren, just as grandchildren can greatly impact their grandparents’ lives. Grandparents enrich a grandchild’s life in so many ways—by playing and reading, sharing life lessons and family history, listening and lending advice, providing stability to the family, and offering emotional, spiritual, and financial support. Many gra… |
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Love Is Learning to Be a Better Parent: Tips and Ideas for Raising Children $125.00 From building self-esteem in young school children to improving communication with teenagers, this 90 minute video shows how you can be a better mother or father. You’ll learn: 1) How to cope with parental stress 2) Tips for raising a difficult child 3) When to praise and when to scold 4) Alternatives to spanking 5) Seven secrets of teamwork 6) Ways to prevent drug problems. When it comes to putti… |
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The Principle of Fatherhood: Priority, Position, and the Role of the Male [VHS] $19.99 … |
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The Best and the Brightest $2.99 … |
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Pregnancy Scare $1.99 … |
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The Best and the Brightest $14.99 … |
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Little Tikes Home and Garden Playhouse $90.00 18 months and up. Children can become carpenters and gardeners as they help put this house together. They can build a fence, hang the flower box and plant and grow real flowers. Other fun features include kitchenette with stove and faucet, mailbox with flag, pounding bench, toolbox and sand and water/planting play area. Assembly required…. |
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The Birth Partner, Third Edition: A Complete Guide to Childbirth for Dads, Doulas, and All Other Labor Companions (Birth Partner: A Complete Guide to Childbirth for Dads, Doulas, &) $11.00 Women who have continuous support during labor have fewer complications, a lower cesarean-section rate, and a more satisfying birth experience. This makes the presence of a prepared, confident, and calming birth partner essential to the mother’s overall health during labor and delivery and to the creation of a positive memory of her baby’s birth.For almost two decades, The Birth Partne… |
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Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children From Nature-Deficit Disorder $5.74 Richard Louv was the first to identify a phenomenon we all knew existed but couldn’t quite articulate: nature-deficit disorder. His book Last Child in the Woods created a national conversation about the disconnection between children and nature, and his message has galvanized an international movement. Now, three years after its initial publication, we have reached a tipping point, with Leave No C… |
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Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys $5.83 Reviving Ophelia, Mary Pipher’s groundbreaking book, exposed the toxic environment faced by adolescent girls in our society. Now, from the same publisher, comes Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys by Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson, which does the same for adolescent boys. Boys suffer from a too-narrow definition of masculinity, the authors assert as they expose and discu… |
Is Your Role As Parent Taking Over Your Identity?
Did you long to be a mom or dad? Did you wait and
wait for the time you could parent?
Or were you someone who loved your life, and was
ambivalent to give up that freedom to become a parent?
Either way, you could find yourself in a position
of resenting your baby as you give up more and
more of what you love to do, and more and more
of your time with your spouse and your friends,
to be the parent you want to be.
How do you learn to balance your needs with your
baby’s needs?
A good question. And a big one.
I was someone who started dreaming of being a
mother when I was still in high school. Birth
control for me was spending as much time as I
could with other peoples’ kids, to ease the longing.
I was also good with kids, and enjoyed it, so
when I did become a mother, I fell into it willingly
and naturally.
And it was all too easy to give up whatever life
I had outside of my role as a parent. I hardly even
noticed until my daughter was four years old, and I
split up with my husband. Suddenly, I was not able
to be the parent I had been for so long. I had to get
a job, find a preschool for Sidra, and I noticed I
didn’t have much identity outside of being a mother.
To me, a good mom was always being there for my
daughter. Taking her with me wherever I went, rarely
needing a babysitter, and responding immediately to
her every need.
Now I was finding that putting everything I was into
motherhood set up two things: 1) a feeling of guilt
that if I wasn’t able to continue, I was being a
“bad mom.” And 2) it put Sidra in charge.
I began running my decisions about parenting from
that place of guilt, and to avoid feeling it, Sidra – unbeknownst to me – was “in charge.” Her every
need took precedence over anything I needed and it
cost us.
How could putting your child first be “wrong?”
It isn’t wrong, but it can have consequences in the
long term that are difficult to see when your baby
is still young. It’s true that as a parent of an
infant, we do need to prioritize differently than
if our child is older. But it’s possible to take
it too far, and set up a long-term problem of the
child running the show.
It is possible to have such high standards, that
you give the message to your child that they are
more important than you are. This could be setting up a culture in your family that the parents’ aren’t important or deserving of respect, and that the children’s needs and wants always take priority.
So how do you recognize and shift a pattern like
this?
First of all, ask yourself, “Do I have enough time
with my partner or friends?” And, “Do I spend any
time nurturing myself, my spirituality, my hobbies?”
If the answer is no, you might be allowing your baby
to “take over” your identity.
Secondly, understand that by taking time for yourself
and your relationships, you model self-worth for your
child. Your baby will absorb the value that it’s
important to treat herself well, as well as plant the
seeds for respecting you when she’s older.
But where’s the line? How do you know when to put
yourself first, and when to put your baby first?
To answer that, you need to first separate NEEDS
from WANTS for both you and your baby, and then
prioritize them. Roughly, it goes:
1) baby’s needs
2) your needs
3) YOUR wants
4) Your baby’s wants
Okay, I know this might be difficult to take in.
But it’s true. Your wants can come before your
baby’s wants, or at the very least, have as much
importance. Choosing what goes in each of the
above categories is not always black and white.
It will be individual for everyone, but there are
some guidelines to help you.
Things to Remember when prioritizing NEEDS and WANTS:
– Ask yourself what kind of a parent will you be if you DON’T take time for yourself. What do YOU need to be the parent you want to be? Do you need to be nurturing your career? Do you need to quit your job and be at home? Do you need an hour each night for a long, relaxing bath? Do you need to join a gym and have your baby in group care for a few hours a day? It really depends on what is going to help you feel more like yourself as you parent.
– Decide what you’re doing daily that other’s can help with. Can someone else watch your baby and play with her at a park or go for a walk while you do something for yourself?
This can be a difficult option if you don’t feel you
can trust anyone else to take care of your baby the way you can. Acknowledge that NO ONE can take care of your baby the way you can and you need to take time for yourself. It is okay to find someone who can care for your baby and keep them safe and well while you are away. Your baby probably will have a reaction to being with someone new. This is an opportunity. By
allowing them to have an experience with another adult
who is different from you, you are helping them to build inner strengths of coping, and understanding that there are different people in the world.
– Understand that your adult relationships including the basic parent relationship is of HUGE importance. If you are a couple your relationship together is a major source of strength and stability to you and your child. It is vital that you spend time nurturing your adult relationships.
– If you don’t feel okay about leaving your child, (provided you have met their needs, and they are safe) your child will sense that, and it may affect his ability to feel okay about it. It’s important, if you are feeling guilty for nurturing yourself, in whatever form that takes, to look more deeply at what that might be about for you. Bottom line, if you are okay about taking time for you, you give yourself the space to empathize with your baby without guilt, and teach him valuable lessons about who he is in relationship to the world.
Allow the process of integrating who you were before the birth of your baby with your new parental role. It may take a while, but it’s important to give yourself permission to sink deeply into who you were before your baby came once in a while. Over time, the balance will be more natural, and easier to find.
About the Author
Dylan Emrys, M.A. is a psychotherapist/counselor that help parents go from overwhelmed to overjoyed. Visit her website at http://www.whatyourbabyknows.com for more information.
parenting roles Questions
What are the benefits of responsible parenting and what are parent’s roles in bringing up children?
Well, the children will be more secure, have better social skills and probably verbal skills, but it does of course depend on what you define as ‘responsible parenting’.
Personally I would say that it is a combination of clear values, established routines and a consistent reaction to discipline issues/ undesirable bahaviour. It helps to know a bit about child development too, and that is why sharing experiences with other parents and grand parents is so important. It is also vital to remember the very fundamental fact that we are social animals who need a lot of contact with a variety of people (but mostly with the principle carer/s) to develop best.
I pride myself on having mostly been able to be a responsible parent – no one is perfect and I know I have made mistakes, but I think that the fact that other adults like my children is a good sign. I absolutely believe in consistent and fair discipline – personally I think that that is vital for responsible parenting. I believe that the biggest pay off is if you do the really hard bit when they are young, you, and the rest of society, will benefit from that later on.
I know that adolescence is likely not to be a bundle of laughs, but I do believe that because I have done the groundwork I will find it easier than most. That to me is the biggest benefit.
Do White Americans buy into the Black IQ inferiority thing because they are racist?
or genuinely stupid. Okay, i am African–and by the IQ chart i should have an IQ of about 70. YET, i am in college, scored 1600/2400 on my SAT’s, aced an entire quarter [there are 4 quarters in the course] of highscool pre-calculus, and hold my own in other sections of yahoo like politics, anthropology, & religion.
Black Americans don’t do well in school because a lot of them come from broken homes, uneducated parents, external peer pressures, and few role models. Intelligence is not genetic, or Africans would not be the highest educated group in the U.S (don’t ask me for a link, i’ve posted it like a 1000 times)., a Nigerian scientist would not have the 3rd highest IQ in the world, most American musical arts would not have been created by Black Americans, etc. Cut the crap–and actually read something other than White supremacist propaganda once in a while
Your president: I could pull up just as many scientific studies to the contrary
true
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The Birth Partner, Third Edition: A Complete Guide to Childbirth for Dads, Doulas, and All Other Labor Companions (Birth Partner: A Complete Guide to Childbirth for Dads, Doulas, &) $11.00 Women who have continuous support during labor have fewer complications, a lower cesarean-section rate, and a more satisfying birth experience. This makes the presence of a prepared, confident, and calming birth partner essential to the mother’s overall health during labor and delivery and to the creation of a positive memory of her baby’s birth.For almost two decades, The Birth Partne… |
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Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children From Nature-Deficit Disorder $5.74 Richard Louv was the first to identify a phenomenon we all knew existed but couldn’t quite articulate: nature-deficit disorder. His book Last Child in the Woods created a national conversation about the disconnection between children and nature, and his message has galvanized an international movement. Now, three years after its initial publication, we have reached a tipping point, with Leave No C… |
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Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys $5.83 In Raising Cain, Dan Kindlon, Ph.D., and Michael Thompson, Ph.D., two of the country’s leading child psychologists, share what they have learned in more than thirty-five years of combined experience working with boys and their families. They reveal a nation of boys who are hurting–sad, afraid, angry, and silent. Kindlon and Thompson set out to answer this basic, crucial question: What do boys nee… |
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The Best and the Brightest $2.99 … |
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Pregnancy Scare $1.99 … |
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The Best and the Brightest $14.99 … |
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Little Tikes Home and Garden Playhouse $90.00 18 months and up. Children can become carpenters and gardeners as they help put this house together. They can build a fence, hang the flower box and plant and grow real flowers. Other fun features include kitchenette with stove and faucet, mailbox with flag, pounding bench, toolbox and sand and water/planting play area. Assembly required…. |
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Grandparenting:Enriching Lives [VHS] $4.95 Grandparents can have a profound effect on the lives of their grandchildren, just as grandchildren can greatly impact their grandparents’ lives. Grandparents enrich a grandchild’s life in so many ways—by playing and reading, sharing life lessons and family history, listening and lending advice, providing stability to the family, and offering emotional, spiritual, and financial support. Many gra… |
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Love Is Learning to Be a Better Parent: Tips and Ideas for Raising Children $125.00 From building self-esteem in young school children to improving communication with teenagers, this 90 minute video shows how you can be a better mother or father. You’ll learn: 1) How to cope with parental stress 2) Tips for raising a difficult child 3) When to praise and when to scold 4) Alternatives to spanking 5) Seven secrets of teamwork 6) Ways to prevent drug problems. When it comes to putti… |
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The Principle of Fatherhood: Priority, Position, and the Role of the Male [VHS] $19.99 … |
