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Dying To Live TV series Educational Award Winning + 3 FREE BONUSES. Intimate interviews on coping with common end-of-life issues. Grief & loss, hospice, palliative, euthanasia, bereavement, suicide, counseling, child death, green lifestyle, terminal illness, psychology, nursing, death and dying $69.97 “DYING TO LIVE” Award Winning Documentary Series L.A. & Phoenix 2010 film festivals. 3 FREE BONUSES: “Living With Loss” DVD + Downloadable Study guides + How to release/manage emotions thro’ Journaling. LEARN how to ‘do’ the last celebration of life we call death. Life’s milestones such as birth, graduation, marriage and retirement are planned and freely discussed. Research shows that 66% o… |
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Thoughts and Feelings: A Sentence Completion Card Game This cheerfully animated card deck is a therapeutic tool designed to help parents, teachers and mental health professionals engage children ages 5 and up. The deck contains 35 cards especially effective in helping children identify, process, and worth through a variety of issues, including changes within the family, trauma, grief, anger, depression, anxiety and fears. To add to your play therapy t… |
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Assessment and Treatment Activities for Children, Adolescents, and Families: Practitioners Share Their Most Effective Techniques $15.65 In this comprehensive resource, highly acclaimed author Liana Lowenstein has compiled an impressive collection of techniques from experienced practitioners. Interventions are outlined for engaging, assessing, and treating children of all ages and their families. Activities address a range of issues including, Feelings Expression, Social Skills, Self-Esteem, and Termination. A must have for mental … |
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Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner, Fourth Edition $37.63 Designated a Doody’s Core Title! “In the fields of death education, research and counseling/psychology, surely Bill Worden is a giant….ALL of us, personally and professionally, are indebted to J. William Worden. From his work we may be just a bit wiser, a bit healthier, a bit more competent, and a lot more in touch with meaning (our own and those of others) for the sake of all who mourn.” –Illn… |
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The Healing Path: How the Hurts in Your Past Can Lead You to a More Abundant Life $4.99 Don’t Waste Your Pain None of us escapes the heartache and disappointments of life. To live is to hurt, and we all have the wounds to prove it. Regardless of how we’ve been hurt, we all face a com… |
Greiving Children Know What They Need
“Am I still a sister?” asked the young girl that sat before me, her eyes pleading for an answer. “You will always be a sister,” I responded without hesitation. Pleased with my answer, she nestled deeper into her chair. “Then I guess that settles it,” she responded. “I won’t have to worry about that anymore.”
This child, six months into her grief journey, would challenge me to stretch the limits of my knowledge, and question what I thought I knew about children and grief. She would force me to exit my own comfort-zone, in order to join with her on her path of grief. Never mind that I had painstakingly thought through the “best” activities and approaches to help her navigate the raging waters of bereavement. She seemed to have charted her own course. She, and she alone, knew just what it was she needed to process the death of her only sibling, her younger brother. It was a short learning curve for me, thankfully, to see that I was but a witness to her grief…not a conduit for it.
I sat at the ready, week after week, waiting to see what direction our session for the day would take us. And each week, this young girl bravely forged ahead, exploring every nook and cranny of sadness that occupied her mind, heart and soul. At times she would laugh and appear like any other kid, yet her tears betrayed the facade she tried so hard to maintain.
Over time, she trusted me enough to clue me in on her “game plan” for grief. Her rules seemed simple enough…
~Keep smiling
~Act like everything’s okay
~Don’t upset the others around you
~Don’t be one other thing for your parents to worry about
~Keep your tears in check
But, for a 50 minute period, one day a week, she could touch the pain that she worked so hard to avoid the rest of the time. From that hurt stemmed drawings, collages and sculptures…pieces of art that served as tangible reminders of the loss that she had sustained. Abandoning the “rules” for those fleeting moments each week got her out of her head and into her heart…a heart that spoke of the loss of her brother, as well as the loss of a father and mother as she once knew them… a mother and father that were previously untouched by the clutches of sorrow.
She pounded clay, smashed blocks, drew pictures, told me stories and sometimes sat in silence. She made it clear that she would call the shots and I was pleased to let her. She was my teacher and I, her willing student.
What Kids Say About Grief:
The child depicted in the prior scenario portrays the experience of many grieving children. Children will often minimize their grief, so as not to add to the burden of those that grieve around them. It is not unusual for children to say something similar to the following:
“I didn’t want to say anything or mention anything that would make my parents even sadder.”
“I wanted to pretend like everything was fine…that if I acted that way long enough, maybe it would come true.”
“I didn’t want to see my mom cry anymore. She was sad enough. I didn’t want her to worry about my grief, too. I just kept it to myself.”
What Parents Say About Grief:
It is not uncommon for parents to want to also shield their children from their grief.
Parents have said such things as:
“I don’t want my kids to see me crying all of the time.”
“They deserve to have as normal as a childhood as possible.”
“I need to give them a sense of normalcy.”
Here’s what the kids have said in response:
“I wish my mom would cry in front of me. Then I could hug her and tell her I was sad, too!”
“I feel like I’m supposed to be done with the crying already. I never see my mom or dad cry anymore and I think that something must be wrong with me.”
“It’s like everyone else forgot about my sister, but me.”
Helping Your Child Open Up
~ Let your child know that he/she will experience many different feelings when it comes to grief.
Tell your child that he/she may feel sad, mad, relieved, scared, lonely, and lots of other feelings. They may feel more than one feeling at a time. That is okay. Let your child know that grief is confusing even to adults. Keep reminding your child that you are there to talk whenever he or she needs.
~Don’t expect your child to come to you.
Keep opening up the door to conversation with your child. Just because your child says he has nothing to say one day doesn’t mean he won’t another day.
~ If your child is hesitant to open up, ask more specific questions such as:
“What’s been the hardest thing for you since your brother died?”
“What do you miss the most about your dad?”
“What’s one of the silliest things you remember ever doing with your sister?”
“What’s one thing you would want to tell mom if you could?”
“What helps you the most when you are feeling sad?”
“When you feel angry, how can I help you?”
~ Share your feelings with your child.
This will help normalize that grief stays with us for awhile. There is no “appropriate” time frame for grief.
~ Give lots of hugs
This is good for your child and good for you!
Finally, remember what William Shakespeare had to say about grief:
“Give sorrow words. The grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart, and bids it break.”
About the Author
Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD, is the founder of Kidlutions: Solutions for Kids and is an award winning child and family therapist. She is the Clinical Director of Comprehensive Counseling & Consulting, LLC in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula. For more parenting resources, visit her at www.kidlutions.com .
children grief counseling Questions
not sure which direction i should take next in counselling?
Hope someone can help, i have a certificate in level one and two in communication and counselling skills, i also have a diploma in in counselling Children and adolescents , and a diploma in Grief and bereavement counselling, i would love to do a play therapist course but i need 2 years at least experience of working with children , but its hard getting that experience when i cant find a job as majority also want exp too , im not sure what step to take next in gaining what i want to really do? i do have a job as an accounts assistant but this is not what i want to do and im really excited about my future career , hope someone can point in the right direction
thanks in advance 
a good place to look for experience working with children is through vacation and afterschool care groups……
Because most of this work is seasonal it is hard for them to get staff and keep them because people end up going and getting FT work, unable to return in future hollidays!
and because they have a large group of kids with a large group of staff not all the staff require a child care certificate-
You could also try volunteering a few hours a week at community based centres!
You have alot of qualifications so keep looking and you’ll get there, try and start little and then you will gradually gain more experience and your chances and offers will increase………
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A Safe Place to Be : How Children can deal with grief and loss VHS… |
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Dying To Live TV series Educational Award Winning + 3 FREE BONUSES. Intimate interviews on coping with common end-of-life issues. Grief & loss, hospice, palliative, euthanasia, bereavement, suicide, counseling, child death, green lifestyle, terminal illness, psychology, nursing, death and dying $69.97 “DYING TO LIVE” Award Winning Documentary Series L.A. & Phoenix 2010 film festivals. 3 FREE BONUSES: “Living With Loss” DVD + Downloadable Study guides + How to release/manage emotions thro’ Journaling. LEARN how to ‘do’ the last celebration of life we call death. Life’s milestones such as birth, graduation, marriage and retirement are planned and freely discussed. Research shows that 66% o… |
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Londons Times Funny Medicine Cartoons – Snoopy At Good Grief Counseling – Sweatshirts … |
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Londons Times Funny Medicine Cartoons – Snoopy At Good Grief Counseling – T-Shirts … |
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Londons Times Funny Medicine Cartoons – Snoopy At Good Grief Counseling – Caps … |
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Thoughts and Feelings: A Sentence Completion Card Game This cheerfully animated card deck is a therapeutic tool designed to help parents, teachers and mental health professionals engage children ages 5 and up. The deck contains 35 cards especially effective in helping children identify, process, and worth through a variety of issues, including changes within the family, trauma, grief, anger, depression, anxiety and fears. To add to your play therapy t… |
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Assessment and Treatment Activities for Children, Adolescents, and Families: Practitioners Share Their Most Effective Techniques $15.65 In this comprehensive resource, highly acclaimed author Liana Lowenstein has compiled an impressive collection of techniques from experienced practitioners. Interventions are outlined for engaging, assessing, and treating children of all ages and their families. Activities address a range of issues including, Feelings Expression, Social Skills, Self-Esteem, and Termination. A must have for mental … |
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Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner, Fourth Edition $37.63 Designated a Doody’s Core Title! “In the fields of death education, research and counseling/psychology, surely Bill Worden is a giant….ALL of us, personally and professionally, are indebted to J. William Worden. From his work we may be just a bit wiser, a bit healthier, a bit more competent, and a lot more in touch with meaning (our own and those of others) for the sake of all who mourn.” –Illn… |
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The Healing Path: How the Hurts in Your Past Can Lead You to a More Abundant Life $4.99 Don’t Waste Your Pain None of us escapes the heartache and disappointments of life. To live is to hurt, and we all have the wounds to prove it. Regardless of how we’ve been hurt, we all face a com… |
